Self-confidence: dare to try the unfamiliar

You studied, you know the material, and then a question comes up that looks a bit different from what you practised. Your mind goes blank, or you leave it empty. This is where self-confidence matters. In OMZA it is *Zelfvertrouwen*: trusting that you can have a go, even when you are not sure.[^1]

Quick check

  • I leave questions blank when they look unfamiliar.
  • I often ask the teacher to confirm that my answer is right before I commit.
  • I want to know exactly what will be on the test, and feel uneasy when I do not.
  • I joke around or act as if I do not care when I feel unsure.

If you recognised yourself, you are not alone, and it is common. Acting like you do not care is one of the usual ways people hide being unsure.[^2]

What confidence actually is

It is not feeling great about yourself in general. It is a belief about a specific task: «I can probably do this one.» That belief shapes what you choose, how hard you try and how long you keep going.[^3] This is useful news: you may be confident in Spanish and shaky in maths. You do not need to fix your whole personality. You need to build trust in one subject, one skill at a time.[^4]

Fix 1: Have a first step for unfamiliar questions

When a question looks new, do not stare at it. Run this routine:

  1. Rewrite the question in your own words.
  2. Write down what you know that might be related.
  3. Try the smallest first step, even if it might be wrong.
  4. If you are stuck, write what you would try next and move on.

A half-answer with a good idea often earns more than a blank page. More importantly, you practise not freezing.

Fix 2: Build confidence with proof

Confidence comes from experience, not from pep talks. Collect evidence:

  • Keep a «done» list: things you solved, even small ones.
  • Before a test, do practice questions from easy to a little harder. Notice that you can do them.
  • Compare yourself with *your own* results from last month, not with the best student in class. Comparing with others sets a bar that keeps moving.[^5]

Fix 3: Reduce the checking habit

If you always ask «is this right?», try asking yourself first: «How could I check this?» Substitute the numbers back, re-read the question, test an example. Then ask for confirmation. You will often find out you were right, and that proof counts.

Fix 4: Change what you tell yourself about mistakes

Compare these two thoughts after a bad grade:

  • «I’m just bad at this.»
  • «My method did not work. What can I try instead?»

The first one stops you trying. The second one gives you something to do. Blaming your method keeps you motivated, because you can change a method.[^5]

A warning that is also good news

Being confident does not mean thinking you are perfect. Some students overestimate what they can do, particularly in writing. Aim for *accurate* confidence: knowing what you can already do, knowing what you cannot do yet, and being willing to try anyway.[^6]

This week

Choose one subject where you feel unsure. Do the four-step routine on three questions that look unfamiliar. Write down what happened.


[^1]: DocentPlus describes low self-confidence in class as uncertainty with new material, hesitating to answer, asking many questions, wanting to know exactly what to learn, needing a lot of confirmation, skipping questions that differ from what was practised, or clownish behaviour to hide the uncertainty. Source: DocentPlus, *Breng met OMZA de sociaal-emotionele ontwikkeling & welbevinden van je leerlingen in kaart*, https://docentplus.nl/breng-met-omza-de-sociaal-emotionele-ontwikkeling-welbevinden-van-je-leerlingen-in-kaart/

[^2]: In the RTTI model Zelfvertrouwen is related to a degree to Transfer (T2), applying what you know in a new situation. DocentPlus notes that a student who feels unsure when a question is not recognised may not dare to try anything on such questions.

[^3]: The research term is self-efficacy, from Bandura (1977). In Schunk’s review the idea is that self-efficacy «affects an individual’s choice of activities, effort» and persistence. Schunk, D. H. (1991). Self-efficacy and academic motivation. *Educational Psychologist, 26*(3-4), 207-231.

[^4]: Pajares (1996) reviewed self-efficacy in school and found that measures tied to a specific task predict outcomes better than general ones. Pajares, F. (1996). Self-efficacy beliefs in academic settings. *Review of Educational Research, 66*(4), 543-578.

[^5]: Zimmerman (2002) reports that students who compare themselves with others face a constantly rising standard and tend to blame ability, while those who judge themselves against their own goals and blame strategies stay more motivated. He also notes that specific near-term goals raise both achievement and felt capability, and that confidence is part of a cycle in which dissatisfaction can lower confidence next time. Zimmerman, B. J. (2002). Becoming a self-regulated learner: An overview. *Theory Into Practice, 41*(2), 64-70.

[^6]: Research on students with learning difficulties suggests that, for example in writing, some students may be over-optimistic about their abilities, hence the idea of calibration. See: *A question of calibration: A review of the self-efficacy beliefs of students with learning disabilities*, review article, SAGE Journals, https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.2307/1511276